Safe Sex means taking precautions to prevent any sexually transmitted infection (STI) spreading from one body to another.
Most STIs (HIV, gonorrhoea, hepatitis) are spread by bodily fluids (semen, blood, vaginal secretions) entering the blood stream of another person. They can enter via cuts and sores, or through the fragile membranes inside the vagina, urethra and anus.
Other STIs (e.g. Herpes, thrush, warts, chlamydia) are spread by actual physical contact of the infected area with the genitals or mouth.
Syphylis, crabs, and scabes can be caught from any skin contact. Sex toys which have been used by other people can spread infections. They need cleaning in bleach before being passed along.
Sex workers are professionals and make it their business to ensure they do not catch or pass on diseases. This includes all diseases – sexually transmitted infections, diseases of the skin, colds, coughs, flu and any other infection. That is why you should never visit a sex worker if you are at all ill. Arrive in clean clothes, having bathed and cleaned your teeth.
Sex workers insist on cleanliness. Some will require you to shower on arrival, and some will wash your body as part of an erotic service. However, they may also be discreetly searching for lice, scabs and crabs, and examining your genitals for spots and discharge, before engaging in any intimacy.
Clients and potential clients need to understand that this work provides the sex worker with a livelihood, and catching diseases and becoming ill will disrupt their income as well as their health.
It should be clear that you are far more likely to catch a sexually transmitted infection from someone you pick up in a bar or an amateur than from a professional. The reason for this is that professional sex workers are much more likely than other people to engage in safer sex.
How to stay safe
– Use a condom for all oral, vaginal or anal sex. Cover any cuts elsewhere on the body if you are going to play with genitals, or rub, kiss or lick a partner.
– Use dental dam for protection during oral sex. It can be used as a barrier between mouth and vagina during cunnilingus and also between the mouth and the anus during anilingus. It prevents the transmission of virus-sized particles.
– Keep in mind that different diseases can be transmitted to both partners by oral sex. These include gonorrhea, Chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, genital warts, parasites, giardia and hepatitis.
– You don’t need to have sexual intercourse in order to enjoy sex. There are many other exciting things to do, such as playing erotic games, stroking and massage, masturbation and oral sex, watching each other and talking sexy. You may well come away feeling as if you have had a much more exciting time with a sex worker if you spend the time exploring some of these options.
– Sex workers have their own supplies of condoms. If you have problems using a condom, the Femidom is a female condom which forms a barrier inside the vagina. However, the Femidom does not protect the woman’s urethra or anus, and you need to be careful that semen does not run into these openings. Femidoms can also be used for anal sex (place it over the penis before penetration). Professional sex workers may refuse to use Femidoms.
– If you have a Herpes sore, do not make an appointment with a sex worker until you are sure it has gone. If a sore develops before an appointment, cancel it. Never allow a Herpes sore to come into contact with the skin of another person.
– If you have experienced unsafe sex with anyone, visit a Genito-urinary clinic for tests immediately. In fact, everyone who is sexually active should have regular check-ups as many infections have no obvious symptoms.
– If you have a discharge from the vagina or penis, spots, painful peeing or other symptoms, go to a clinic, refrain from sexual intercourse, and obey the instructions of the clinic.
– Never try to persuade a sex worker (or anyone for that matter) to have unsafe sex with you. This is insulting and dangerous.
– Each condom is to be used only once. If it falls off, use another. If the condom falls off or splits during intercourse, you need to use emergency techniques, ask your clinic for advice.
– The penis exudes pre-cum before ejaculation, so you need a condom on all the time penetration is taking place.
– Extra strong condoms are required for anal sex.
Remember that to stay safe means to stay healthy!
Sea-gulling: the act of masturbating and then shooting your load out onto the street, possibly on top of unknowing pedestrians. Best when done from high above.
SFH: sex for hire.
Shocker: a technique of manual stimulation where the pointer and middle finger are inserted into a woman’s vagina while the pinkie is inserted the anus.
Shrimp, shrimping: licking or sucking someone’s toes during sex.
Sixty-nine (69): slang for oral sex performed by two individuals on each other, simultaneous fellatio and cunnilingus. Called “69” due to the shape of the two numerals, which suggests the sex act.
Slick leg: a slang term for a form of intercourse where the male does not penetrate his partner’s vagina/anus but instead places his penis between his partner’s thighs
Smurf: slapping someone in the face with your penis.
Snowball: after a man ejaculates in someone’s mouth, passing the semen back and forth between partners.
Snow blow: performing oral sex on a man with ice cubes in your mouth.
Softcore: sexual pictures, movies, etc. that do not show penetration and usually do not show an erect penis. Opposite of hardcore.
Spoon; spooning: a position for sexual intercourse — both partners lying on their side, with the man behind the woman.
Squirting: female ejaculation when the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid from a pussy takes place during the orgasm. Only 30% of women sometimes experience squirting, and only 50-60% of females have experienced it once or some times.
STD: sexually transmitted diseases, see also Safe Sex.
STI: sexually transmitted infection, see also Safe Sex.
What will happen if you catch an STD / STI?
So long as you are diagnosed quickly, some diseases can be cured. However, HIV is currently incurable and can lead to AIDS which can make you very sick and some people die. Chlamydia is often without symptoms so does not get treated. It can make a women infertile. Some forms of hepatitis can be fatal. Herpes is incurable and you will be infectious every time you have an outbreak. Many STIs are passed on to offspring. It is important to take this advice seriously without panicking and becoming too afraid to enjoy sex. Remember, you are safer with a professional sex worker than with a civilian because sex workers are always alert about their and your health.
Sugar Daddy: refers to a man who financially supports a younger person in return for sexual favors.
Sultry: hot with passion.
Supine Position: missionary position.
Swinger: one who is in a committed relationship but has sex with multiple partners with the partner’s knowledge.
Straight: slang for a heterosexual person.
Strap-on: a dildo that is worn around the waist, via a strap.
Stripper: someone who exposes their nude or semi-nude body for money in an erotic dancing act.
Striptease:striptease is the art of undressing in a provocative way to excite an audience. Most strippers do not touch the audience physically, but their presence radiates through eye contact, flirting, “come hither” gestures, perfume, glamour slowly working up to blatant displays of breasts, buttocks and genitalia.
Swallow: the act of swallowing semen after ejaculation resulting from oral sex. Heavily disapproved by escorts, see also Safe Sex.